well i got home around the 13th or so. kelsey athalia and i spent basically like two whole days together. it was amazing. we just hung out in the hills in our fort and we pigged out and made stuff, went swimming, just basically were total idiots. but athalia told us she was going to germany. she's there right now. wow i miss her. its amazing how much i miss her. she's pregnant now and i'm gonna be an aunt! yay...well, not technically but basically. haha. i'm just so afraid that i'll never see her again. she's one of my bestfriends in the whole world and now......she's pregnant and half a world away....i'm supposed to be with her....and kelsey too....we were always supposed to be together....i'm not mad at her for leaving....i understand...the love of her life is with her....she had to go. but its weird sitting with kelsey and talking and not looking over and athalia not be there, with her flower patterned shirts or band shirts sitting there looking like she stepped out of vogue....it just seems so empty....and me and kelsey are having to explain the whoooole story to everyone who keeps asking about her and to her teachers. only to the teachers we just say she moved and then the question that cuse its a small town and they know her parents are still here but alot of people know about cole. well, one of these days i'm just gonna randomly save money and randomly fly over to germany and track her down!!!

-_-Mykah-_-

Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

This is important information for females of ALL ages .

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends. I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone. Please pass it along.


A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts :


1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.


2) The second thing men look for is clothing . They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.


3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.


4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.


5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two is office parking lots/garages Number three is public restrooms


6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.


7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.


8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming .


9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.


Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it..


10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.


11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.


12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.


13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them . If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.


14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.


15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible!. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.


16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!


You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!


2.Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!


3.If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.


4.Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.


a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.


5. A few! notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.


IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)


6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)


7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.. RUN, preferably in a zig -zag pattern!


8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. H e walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.


9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."


The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors wh en they're home alone at night.


Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This e-mail should probably be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.


I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

so me and grant totally hooked up!!!! ooo...the jake thing....well turns out that jake used to be his friend. USED TO  are the key words. there is a long, sore spot , story there. i don't know it all. all i know is that something happened over a girl. EEK*wide eyes*. but so....that night at the carnival....totally kissed on the ferris wheel. totally awsome. oh yea.

-_-Mykah-_-

well, lately after practice i go with grant to the coffee shop thing to get a soda or we walk around. he turned out not to be such a bad guy. good sense of humor! theres a carnival coming in a couple days and we're gonna go, that should be fun, see what rides he'll ride! . dad has given me more greif about Mindee being scholar and crap and me caring more about friends, boys and sports. he says its not way for a lady to live. he went on and on how he's so proud of Mindee and so disappointed in me. he came right out and said it. can you believe that? well.....i'm not a subtle person. so i yelled a beotchy comeback and gave him my finger and walked out the door. i have never done that to my parents before and i'll probably never do it again, but dang it felt good. i'm so sick of the princess being put on a silk throne and me having to bow down. i'm just waiting for the day i can punch her lights out and put a flaw in that perfect brown-noser face. grrrrr. grant can drive so after that episode i went to the shop and we drove around and he listened to me rant. and i found something out about him. he has one green eye and one blue eye. he brushed back his hair and i saw his eyes for the first time. gosh they're pretty. one of the guys from another team, jake, wants to take me out for a  burger and i asked grant about him and he said that he's not getting into it. sore spot??? hmm. i don't know, i just asked him what he thought about the guy and he said, "he's just a dude....yeah." well good bye for today.........o wait, when i came home my dad was yelling at me and i just ignored him and went to the room. some summer.

-_-Mykah-_-

nothing interesting happened today. woke up. ate. practice(kate didn't get tripped). came home. yay. basically this blog is a shout out to Kelsey. to thank her for the wonderful picture of her foot. that had on tinkerbell socks. do you think you will ever out grow tinker bell and your love of faires?? *shakes head*

-_-Mykah-_-